For the next 10 blog posts, I will be covering the 10 appearance assumptions that many people fall victim to. But first, let’s talk a little bit about assumptions.
Assumptions are things that we accept tp be true without proof. Assumptions are almost always dysfunctional. They arise from schemas we develop and the core beliefs we have. They are usually rigid, overgeneralized, and extreme. In terms of thoughts and statements, they sound a lot like “If…then” and “should”. We’ve all heard the saying about assuming; it makes an ass out of you and me. But assumptions aren’t that easy to let go of.
The first common appearance assumption is, physically attractive people have it all. There are many ways in which this assumption is dysfunctional. First off, a person may be attractive on the outside, but that doesn’t always match what’s on the inside. Most of the time, we can’t help but notice a person’s appearance when we first meet them, but they usually become more or less attractive the more that we get to know them and their personality.
Being physically attractive does not protect someone from feelings of inadequacy, a lack or self-worth, low self-esteem, loneliness, depression, or a wide range of other issues. We don’t always know what people are struggling with on the inside. Everyone has a story and their own obstacles within their story.
Beauty or physical attractiveness can backfire. Other people may interact differently with those they find physically attractive. They may be jealous or feel intimidated, both in which can impact how they interact with someone they find physically attractive.
People can make assumptions about those they find physically attractive. It’s unfortunate but we’ve all heard the assumptions; “She’s beautiful so she must be dumb.” Or, “He’s attractive so he must have a big ego.”
While being physically attractive has benefits, being “average looking” doesn’t close off opportunities for happiness and fulfillment. Only you and your body image stand in your own way of finding happiness.
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